Good Afternoon lovelies,
In what ways do you fulfill your need to have a social life ?
This question has been the most thought provoking question to be answered in the 21st century. Furthermore, for the people who say that they have no social life ? Go out there & explore the world.
what is a social life & what does it mean to have one ?
being social is to interact with a person or a group to such an extent resulting in the group to be called allies or friends. Thus, we say that the individual has a social life. The more that individual talked with people, the more he or she widens their social circle & thereby their social life.
The means of improving the social life a person opt to use would vary depending on the era the person belongs to. Now, a person in the mid 1900’s would prefer talking in person over a ol’ cup of joe & the second option would be to communicate via letters & telegrams if it is meant to be a long distance communication.
Downfall of the means of long distance communication in the late 1970’s took place due to the matter which persisted throughout. That being, the sending of one letter taking weeks to deliver & the reply taking another couple of days. In the year of 1984, this problem was solved by two individuals by introducing the…. wait for it..The text message.
It was fast & it was efficient in the process of sending & replying as well. It was the perfect replacement for the inefficiency experienced in the 1960’s.
This revolutionary invention in the year of ’84 did not happen overnight. This started in the year 1954 when the Soviet Union carried out the Sputnik project which grabbed the attention of many nations & their interest in Science & Technology arose as a result. Seeming to be having no connection to the launch of first mobile phone in ’84 isn’t it ?
BUT, unfortunately it is not.
This sputnik project led other nations in the path of science & technology & technological revolution had never seen such competitive years as such experienced during the years from 1962, the invention of the earliest form of internet up until the year of 1992, the year of the first text message sent.
These two seemingly unrelated events was made interrelated because of one common factor; the smart businessmen in need of new inventions joining the two trends into making one product & then marketing to the hungry wolves we are. Their mantra was based on our needs & that mantra is ” Technology is in, it makes your work smoother & your lives easier “.
If only the inventors knew the unimaginable , irreversible , rapid & last but not least, the competitive technological age which we call the Digital Age caused by their respective inventions I am sure they would regret it and, Why you may ask…
HERE IS THE REASON WHY..
The technological revolution experienced is the most rapidly changing & the most adaptive technological revolutions ever. More technology savvy individuals are in need in the corporate sector as that has been the set trend & it is because of the sole reason to satisfy the marketers need of new inventions. Furthermore, this digital revolution became the most adaptive one to date because, once a product was out, they had another product to replace it. This revolution not only affected the changing of products itself, it changed the mentality of the individuals. This revolution, changed people to create more “inventions” to make lives “easier” & the others to buy the invention simply based on the ” I NEED IT ” mentality.
Now that the ” I NEED TO MAKE IT ” & ” I NEED TO HAVE IT ” mentality was created with time & the persistence of the digital age hanging around for more than two decades made people more tech savvy. Depleting what they were best at; being people savvy if I may say so.
In the early 2000’s on one hand it made things better & on the other hand this new invention made things worse, because we the gullible people were more tech savvy. This invention was; Facebook. It allowed people to connect with people through technology although they were in different parts of the country & even if two individuals were in two different countries. Which solved the aspect of maintaining our social lives. Although the invention was made to improve the social life of an individual, the predisposed mentality made that individual to have it more, because it diminishes all insecurities of not meeting the other in person & if you are good with your words & in typing, VOILA.. you are well off to having the social life you dream to have.
It is a social life nevertheless. One which is virtual. One which halts the opportunities we have in making real life commitments & meeting people in real life. The more friend requests, more followers you get, constant will be the number of people whom you meet in real life that too if you are lucky & higher would be the number of people whom you thought that you shared a social life with. This boost of “social media” applications had the intention of making people connect & promote person to person relationship but alas! The mentality has been altered to such an extent of both marketers of technology & the buyers of technological equipment to such an extent that meeting a person has been replaced with facetming , Talking with texting , Liking , commenting and sharing thoughts in person replaced with three buttons to be clicked. That is not all, how funny it may be, even stalking has been confined to a person staring in to a digital screen receiving all the details he or she needs with the click of a button.
The interesting part is this, what was introduced to solve the antisocial effect of this technological revolution turns out to be another technological platform making us even more tech savvy & even more antisocial than we were at the start. This sort of action goes along with the famous saying ” Adding hay in to bursting flames “.
Let’s agree that it solved the being social aspect part, but as the platform is a free mode of communication, any one & everyone has the chance to express what they feel without personally being affected & also we have no control over who we are exposed to because anybody can share anything & anybody can be anyone at their own will because they are covered by the mask of “social media”. This is the sole reason for having
- more hate comments of disgust as opposed to real life objections
- more heroic events as opposed to real life heroic attempts.
- More charity work in front of the camera as opposed to doing an act of random kindness daily
- upload to seek validation from the virtual life you created by being antisocial to the social world you were born into.
trying to be social in the made up world filled with filters, Lies covered up by captions, the 20th attempt of a good picture & originally pure stuff being mocked , people being mocked for no apparent reason. Resulting in,
- social exclusion
because we have no control over what we are exposed to and who we are exposed to. Even that is one click away.
What have we done to ourselves ?
In a nutshell, we are social animals by default. No denying that. As a result of a rapid technological revolution of such magnitude it started to pose a threat to our social lives by depleting our need to belong to social groups because we were hungry for technology. The solution made us social alright, but it made us create a world which we had no control of like our life & that realization made us be more socially antisocial while it making us more virtually social. Thus’ creating this third parameter of thought as opposed to the two; which we share & two being which we keep to ourselves. The third has become the set norm where, what thoughts we share with the network we are in virtually while being in a network of people in real life. One could interpret it as What we upload & what is really happening backstage. Surprisingly, this is true & is happening in real life. Can’t blame them, they have gotten used to living the mask brought out by the technology itself. Technology is one bad boy.(Or girl depending on your preference! LOL).
We have now unofficially become the socially antisocial animal & the time is not much far away when we will be described as the animal who started to be the Socially Antisocial animal in order to not only be social to be antisocially social. And also a specific features of this animal would be the prominent bent neck and the partially clenched fists and the arms in the shape of letter L.
Start downloading the apps Love , compassion , Happiness , Independence in thoughts & actions to your phone of Life. These may come with bugs such as Hate, Sadness & manipulative trends. Do keep updating so that you have access to the stronger updated versions for your phone of life and also do have the touch with reality, what life really is virus guard so that your phone won’t fall to the dangerous virus spreading by the name façade of lies & masks in social media which has the ability to alter your reality thus affecting your technological gadget of Life.
I am Mr.Smiles
Encouraging you to explore the real world.